Deciding on Divorce

It is not uncommon for people to question their marriage.  All married couples face their fair-share of marriage problems. Marriage requires a life-long commitment to continually address and work through any problems that may arise. But there comes a point in many marriages when people may start to doubt if the marriage is worth all the headache and trouble it is causing.

The decision to end a marriage is never easy. People can face a roller coaster of emotions from anger, betrayal, and resentment to shock, guilt, sorrow and insecurity. When deciding on whether or not to get a divorce, it is important to weigh these emotions with logic, intuition, and gut reaction before making any official decision.

The essential question an individual contemplating divorce should ask is, “Am I better off without my spouse, or with my spouse?” If an individual can come to a clear answer after careful consideration and genuine self reflection, then he/she will know if divorce is the right step.

The most important thing is to not make any quick decisions. How you are feeling one day may not be what you feel tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, or in ten years. A decision of this magnitude made in haste can result in consequences a person may regret later in life.

When it comes down to it, if you are deciding on divorce it is important to listen to what feels right to you, not what other people tell you to do, or what other people want you to do. Making your own decisions about your own life is not only healthy, but necessary in order to feel at peace and happy.

There are important factors to consider when contemplating divorce. It is always important to take into consideration how a divorce may affect your children, family, finances, career, emotions, and lifestyle. Ultimately it is better to face a few years discomfort, rather than a lifetime full of unhappiness or indifference.

If you move forward with the divorce, there are important steps that must be taken before you actually file any paperwork:

• Hire an attorney before you do anything else
• Do not move out of the home you share with your spouse until you’ve spoken with a lawyer
• Try talking to a marriage therapist. He/she may be able to help work out any problems you may be having at the last minute
• If you have engaged in an extramarital affair, it is important to discuss it with your attorney before anyone else, including your spouse
• Make sure all of your assets are protected before the divorce is discussed or started

If you decide divorce is the best option for you it will be difficult, but the assistance of an experienced Long Island family law attorney can make it a much smoother process. Divorce can be a stressful experience for the entire family.

The lawyers at the Law Office of Palermo, Palermo & Tuohy work diligently with each client and fight aggressively on their behalf. At the Law Office of Palermo, Palermo & Tuohy it is the professional goal of the attorneys to provide effective legal counsel, expert legal guidance, relentless negotiating tactics, and justice for all clients.

At the Law Office of Palermo, Palermo & Tuohy our lawyers exhaust all possible efforts into securing and comforting the needs of their clients during these difficult and emotionally trying times.